Hope with Eating Disorders – book review

An in depth review of Lynn Crilly's book "Hope with Eating Disorders" by the parent and carer of an ED sufferer. A practical book on these mental illnesses. Hope with Eating Disorders book review on Falcondale Life blog. Image description: hands holding the book, Hope with Eating Disorders by Lynn Crilly, a sad girl at a dining table in a tatty room and the blog title.An affiliate link is on this page

If you follow me social media you will not be surprised to find I am reviewing this book “Hope with Eating Disorders”. Regular followers know that I often share content which raises awareness of eating disorders (ED). I’ve spoken out against food restriction, so-called diet teas, fat shaming, sweeping, ignorant statements about childhood obesity and much more. Why do I have this bee in my bonnet? Because it’s personal.

An Eating Disorder and our family

A couple of weeks after my daughter Fizz finished her GCSEs she was diagnosed with a sensory eating disorder called ARFID. She didn’t suddenly lose weight as some eating disorder sufferers do, but she had always been slim. The fact is, she had nothing spare on her and must have been slightly unwell for years. When she lost a little bit of weight through stress, it tipped her over the edge and into a black hole of illness. This black hole is so hard to escape.

An in depth review of Lynn Crilly's book "Hope with Eating Disorders" by the parent and carer of an ED sufferer. A practical book on these mental illnesses. Hope with Eating Disorders book review on Falcondale Life blog. Image description: A girl hides her face in her arms, sitting at a dining table in a tatty old room. Eating Disorder Parent and Carer

In my new life as a carer and advocate for Fizz, I have tried to take on board plenty of useful information to help me. Even though I’ve read snippets online every day, I’ve largely failed at reading books. The subject is so emotional for me. The strain of caring has made me hyper-vigilant, which is a tense state of mind. The result is that my concentration is screwed. I know I ought to read up on ED, which is why I agreed to review this new book “Hope with Eating Disorders” by Lynn Crilly. I made a promise to do this review, and a bit of accountability is a real help to me in my current state of mind.

Who is “Hope with Eating Disorders” for?

Luckily for me, “Hope with Eating Disorders” is a practical book which is laid out in a really useful way for reference. It’s a book I can dip into and refer back to. The book is useful for carers such as the parents, but is also ideal for people who are close to the situation but not involved every day. That might include teachers, extended family, SEN specialists, social workers and clinical staff from other disciplines. There’s also good information for journalists and policy makers. Eating disorders can affect a wide range of health and social aspects of the sufferer’s life. It would be a really good idea if more people knew this stuff!

An in depth review of Lynn Crilly's book "Hope with Eating Disorders" by the parent and carer of an ED sufferer. A practical book on these mental illnesses. Hope with Eating Disorders book review on Falcondale Life blog. Image description: hands holding the book, Hope with Eating Disorders.What’s in the book

“Hope with Eating Disorders” sets out to be a practical encouragement. Crilly manages to clarify a wide range of confusing experiences by giving real life examples. At the same time she regularly stresses that everyone’s experience of ED is different. This is such an important point. I’ve found that I cannot identify with most other people’s stories. It’s a relief to know that I don’t need to frame our family’s experience within the constraints of some kind of “average.”

It is an umbrella book – it gives an overview of issues, treatments and pressures affecting people with eating disorders and their families. There’s broad reference material on the whole subject, with enough detail to satisfy in most areas.

It is a lifestyle book – it explains and unpicks family life with ED, and points to hope for dealing with a life like this. Crilly looks at the whole life experience of the ED sufferer. She points out hazards and opportunities on the road to recovery.

There are a couple of things which I thought deserved more coverage. In particular ARFID is described in only two paragraphs. Knowing the condition as I do now, I have learned it’s not a rare disease, and widely misunderstood. However I cannot fault the book’s coverage and usefulness for anorexia, bulimia and the more similar conditions to those two well-known ones such as orthorexia.

An in depth review of Lynn Crilly's book "Hope with Eating Disorders" by the parent and carer of an ED sufferer. A practical book on these mental illnesses. Hope with Eating Disorders book review on Falcondale Life blog. Image description: hands holding the book, Hope with Eating Disorders by Lynn CrillyLynn Crilly, the Author

Crilly rounds off the book with a look at what recovery really means. The gently descriptive way she explains this emotionally charged concept is masterful. For me, what she says just “clicks” immediately. She has a way of writing about both the feelings and the practice of each subject that is never woolly or confusing.

Using “Hope with Eating Disorders”

To read “Hope with Eating Disorders” was always going to be hard for me, as we right in the middle of it all as a family. The personal testimonies and quotes included in the book caused me some tears. As the title promised the book also showed me some new areas for hope. I have learned a lot. I know in particular I’ll use the material about therapies and recovery over the coming months. You can get your copy here through my Amazon affiliate link ad:

If you have any questions about the book, please let me know in the comments.

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9 Comments

  1. Wendy
    1st March 2019 / 7:53 am

    This book sounds really useful and informative for parents/friends and carers to understand more what their loved one is going through and to help and support them in the best way. I’m sorry to hear about your daughter, I hope things get better for you all xx

  2. 27th February 2019 / 6:13 pm

    I’m sorry to hear what your daughter is going through. I hope you all get the support you need and this book sounds so helpful.

  3. 27th February 2019 / 2:39 pm

    Thanks for sharing this book. It’s not something we have been affected by (touch wood) but I am bookmarking this in case I ever need to recommend it to a friend.

  4. 27th February 2019 / 11:58 am

    So sorry to hear about your daughter and what you are going through as a family. I hope she can overcome this disorder and get the help that she needs x

  5. 27th February 2019 / 11:55 am

    Such an important topic and it’s great your an advocate for it. I have a very young daughter and it scares me what she is up against, I hope I can raise a strong little lady, but all it takes is a seed of doubt to plant its self. This sounds like a great book and I hope it offers help to many people!

  6. clare minall
    27th February 2019 / 11:54 am

    I gained a lot of knowledge reading through this post, im sure a lot of people can learn too.

  7. 27th February 2019 / 11:18 am

    We had a friend who suffered from ED and honestly outside of googling we had no real helpful information so this book sounds like a great resource.

  8. 26th February 2019 / 3:52 pm

    This looks like a great book to use as a resource and I wish I’d had access to it when I was looking after children affected by eating disorders

  9. 26th February 2019 / 12:58 pm

    Thank you for this post. I will look into getting this book. My own daughter had some eating issues at the moment.

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